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LFPWLI: How to Change Your Life Through Free Writing with Lori Motola

 LFPWLI: How to Change Your Life Through Free Writing with Lori Motola
In this episode, you'll hear:
What free writing is and the benefits of a regular practice
How to get started if you don't know where to start
Why we need to reframe what we think of as "art"
In this episode, Mathew and Lori discuss the benefits of free writing, the different writing styles that can be utilized based on what you are struggling with, and tips to get started with writing. At his retreat, Mathew learned that thoughts must come out of your mind to be dealt with, either by talking about them or writing about them. This concept connects perfectly with what Lori has learned by practicing and researching disclosure therapy and inhibition theory. Basically, keeping everything bottled up leads to low-level lifetime stress and eventually causes real issues with your central nervous system. Lori walks us through how to start free writing, what to do if you write something that makes you feel ashamed, and how to think about what to share. Mathew also opens up about dealing with intrusive thoughts in meditation and shares what he learned about acknowledging that thoughts are just thoughts and they are not who you are. Lori advises to let them pass through you and out of you onto the page.
Lori Motola is helping people learn how to change their lives through writing and reframing what we think of as art. She talks about the fundamentals of free writing and the different styles: free writing for trauma, free writing for worry, and free writing for pattern recognition. Basic free writing, or stream-of-consciousness writing, is done with no pauses or stopping and with no concern for grammar or legibility. The goal is to engage the right brain while keeping the left brain, the operational side, suppressed while we empty the mind. It also forces us to practice abstinence from self-judgment and almost always reveals the truth we don't even know about ourselves. Free writing for trauma or other severe emotional challenges is more focused on emotions to help us overcome the inability to look at the trauma. Unearthing feelings allows them to dissipate. Writing for worry is done by giving yourself a specific time of day to do your worrying, then getting it all out so you can move on with the rest of your day. This causes you to feel better in the moment, clears out your brain, makes you more productive, helps you sleep better, and helps you find homeostasis. Writing for patterns is a data-driven way to evaluate the words you write and use defined categories to help you understand your mood and emotional progress to get to know yourself better.
"That's my goal with helping people write. It’s to help them come back home to themselves."
 
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Resources:
Series 2, Episode 9: Austin (part1)
Series 2, Episode 9: Austin (part2)
 
Connect with Mathew Blades: 
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Additional Credits:
LFPWLI is managed by Sam Robertson
 

Series 2, Episode 8 Melinda Learn from People Who Lived It Part 2

Some kids have to survive their parents.
I want you to think about that statement DEEPLY. There are so many reasons this is true, everything from undiagnosed mental illnesses to parents that just are not ready for parenthood to addictions.
Doesn't matter the reason, the kids still have to deal with it. So what was the long term impacts of Melinda's situation? For her, all of her energy was focused into creating something for those of us who suffer from mental health and wellness instability. She created HOPJAX.COM and If you need to talk to someone I will 100% recommend you check our her site!
Hope you enjoy this two part series with Melinda if you take away ANYTHING form this episode take this: If you can't answer the question, WHAT ARE YOUR TRAUMA TOOLS right away then make that your homework this week. ID your tools, then use them.
 
Thank you for listening, 
Mathew Dr Frank and Melinda
 
* This podcast is not meant to serve as medical advice to treat any medical condition in either yourself or others, and is not a substitute for therapy.
 
LFPWLI supported by:
 
ASI or Advanced Systems Integration (Woman owned AV co w/offices in MN & AZ) 
And by www.TMGPHOENIX.COM, outstanding customer service in real estate 
 
#LearnFromPeopleWhoLivedIt #LFPWLI #MentalHealth #MentalHealthSpeaker
#mathewblades #podcast #mentalwellness #itsoktonotbeok 

Series 2, Episode 8, Melinda Learn from People Who Lived It Part 1

Some kids have to survive their parents.
I want you to think about that statement DEEPLY. There are so many reasons this is true, everything from undiagnosed mental illnesses to parents that just are not ready for parenthood to addictions.
Doesn't matter the reason, the kids still have to deal with it. So what was the long term impacts of Melinda's situation? For her, all of her energy was focused into creating something for those of us who suffer from mental health and wellness instability. She created HOPJAX.COM and If you need to talk to someone I will 100% recommend you check our her site!
Hope you enjoy this two part series with Melinda if you take away ANYTHING form this episode take this: If you can't answer the question, WHAT ARE YOUR TRAUMA TOOLS right away then make that your homework this week. ID your tools, then use them.
 
Thank you for listening, 
Mathew Dr Frank and Melinda
 
* This podcast is not meant to serve as medical advice to treat any medical condition in either yourself or others, and is not a substitute for therapy.
 
LFPWLI supported by:
 
ASI or Advanced Systems Integration (Woman owned AV co w/offices in MN & AZ) 
And by www.TMGPHOENIX.COM, outstanding customer service in real estate 
 
#LearnFromPeopleWhoLivedIt #LFPWLI #MentalHealth #MentalHealthSpeaker
#mathewblades #podcast #mentalwellness #itsoktonotbeok 
 
 
 

LFPWLI: How to Stop Fearing Failure with Mental Coach Seth Pepper

LFPWLI: How to Stop Fearing Failure with Mental Coach Seth Pepper
 
In this episode, Mathew and Seth discuss the impact coaches have on athletes, the flow state, and the hidden blessings in panic attacks. Seth shared his struggles with finding an identity outside of being an athlete, and how he overcame extreme panic attacks through repeat exposure therapy. He pointed to examples like Simone Biles and Naomi Osaka to show that high-level athletes are now more honest about their mental health. Finally, Seth emphasized the importance of knowing oneself outside of the game and not personalizing results, as they are just data points.
 
Seth Pepper is a disrupter in the world of sports who grew up in an artistic family. Despite not having an athletic background, his dad was very supportive of his ideas and empowered him to pursue his goals. Seth decided to become an athlete at 14 and chose to pursue swimming. He went on to become the state champ in Oregon, the national champion in college, and a gold medalist internationally. Seth helps people reach their fullest potential by training their minds through visualization and repetition, and he is a proponent of the power of the subconscious mind. Even though Seth didn't end up making it to the Olympics, he learned the valuable lesson that success is not about winning, but about becoming.
 
“What if I trained my mind as much as I trained my body?”
 
In this episode, you'll hear: 
The power of the subconscious mind 
Some underlying causes of panic attacks and the hidden blessings they can bring 
Seth’s number one suggestion to parents of athletes
 
Follow the podcast: 
Listen on Apple Podcasts (link: https://apple.co/3s1YH7h) 
Listen on iHeart (link: https://ihr.fm/3MEY7FM) 
Listen on Spotify (Link: https://spoti.fi/3yMmQCE) 
 
Connect with the Guest
SethPepper.com
Seth Pepper on Instagram
Seth Pepper on LinkedIn
Seth Pepper on Twitter
 
Resources:
Kobe Bryant speaking about failure 
Article on Simone Biles and Naomi Osaka's speaking up about mental health
8 Traits of Flow According to Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi
Pablo Morales Gold Medal Moment
 
Connect with Mathew Blades: 
Twitter - twitter.com/MathewBlades
Instagram - instagram.com/MathewBladesmedia/ 
Facebook - facebook.com/mathewbladesmedia/ 
Website - learnfrompeoplewholivedit.com/
 
Additional Credits:
LFPWLI is managed by Sam Robertson