Learn From People Who Lived it
Navigating painful life circumstances would be easier if they came with a how-to guide. This podcast writes the book! Our show is all about transformation. Mathew Blades, a seasoned radio and television personality, uses his exceptional interview skills to guide individuals in sharing their challenging stories. With the support of our in-house psychologist and psychiatrist, we explore the patterns and strategies that enabled these individuals to transform their lives from a difficult phase to a thriving one.
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Episodes
Monday Nov 21, 2022
Monday Nov 21, 2022
LFWPLI: Umar Kankiya, Developing a New Way to Parent as a Dope Black Dad
In this episode, Mathew and Umar discuss the differences and similarities of the struggles they experience as fathers and what it means to try to parent in a new way. Umar has always been one to challenge the status quo. As the first-generation son of Nigerian immigrant partners in the UK, he channels that determination into breaking generational trauma, creating a new way of doing things, and leaning into being a dope black dad for his two daughters.
Dope Black started in 2018 as a group message sent by founder Marvyn Harrison to his friends expressing that he was thinking of them and that he appreciated the work they did as fathers. He soon realized there was a need for connection and developed a network of communities aimed at creating a future where black people are better skilled, trained, and informed on the major issues and play a key part in the solution.
“It’s ok to mess up. It's just about how you deal with it and how you come back from that.”
In this episode, you'll hear:
How and why Dope Black was created and what they are doing to support people around the world
The unique struggles black fathers face and the power of connecting with peers
Tools Umar uses to step back into life when he finds himself retreating into depression
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Connect with the guest:
Dope Black Dads on Instagram
Dope Black Dads on Facebook
Dope Black Dads on Twitter
Umar Kankiya on Twitter
Umar Kankiya on Instagram
Resources:
Lori Motola's Episode on Journaling
Dope Black Dads Podcast
dopeblack.org
Connect with Mathew Blades:
Twitter - twitter.com/MathewBlades
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Website - learnfrompeoplewholivedit.com/
Mathew and Umar
Monday Nov 14, 2022
Monday Nov 14, 2022
LFWPLI: Larry Hagner, Practical Ways to Become the Parent and Spouse You Want to Be
In this episode, Mathew and Larry discuss what it means to pursue Legendary Fatherhood and why, just like everything else, it takes practice to get good at it. Larry’s own father walked out on him twice but eventually, he moved on, graduated, got a good job, got married, and then realized he had become the kind of parent he never wanted to be. From that point on, he has dedicated himself to learning what it means to be a good father and husband who’s in it for the long run and is passing those skills on to others.
“10 years ago I became the monster that I swore to protect my son against.”
In this episode, you'll hear:
Tools to create an environment where your kids feel safe talking to you
Practical ways to improve communication and intimacy in your marriage
The importance of cultivating relationships with your peers
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Listen on Apple Podcasts (link: https://apple.co/3s1YH7h)
Listen on iHeart (link: https://ihr.fm/3MEY7FM)
Listen on Spotify (Link: https://spoti.fi/3yMmQCE)
Connect with the guest:
https://www.facebook.com/TheDadEdge
https://www.instagram.com/thedadedge/
https://twitter.com/thedadedge/
Resources:
https://thedadedge.com/
Connect with Mathew Blades:
Twitter - twitter.com/MathewBlades
Instagram - instagram.com/MathewBladesmedia/
Facebook - facebook.com/mathewbladesmedia/
Website - learnfrompeoplewholivedit.com/
* This podcast is not meant to serve as medical advice to treat any medical condition in either yourself or others, and is not a substitute for therapy.
www.learnfrompeoplewholivedit.com
Monday Nov 07, 2022
Monday Nov 07, 2022
LFWPLI: Kyle Dean Houston, Overcoming Addiction and Finding Redemption in Self Awareness
In this episode, Mathew and Kyle discuss his journey from meth junkie facing two life sentences to a devoted father, loving husband, and VP of a $2 Billion company. After two years of hiding his past and surviving stage four cancer, Kyle realized he was living a life rooted in fear and decided to change. Now, he is on a mission to give purpose to the pain by helping others overcome the guilt and shame that is standing between where they are now and their higher selves.
“It doesn't matter how far you fall. You can get back up.”
In this episode, you'll hear:
Why negative self-beliefs were causing Kyle to act out in destructive ways
The way drug addiction, being a junkie, and recovery impacted the people around him
How he was able to finally forgive himself and the impact that had on his life
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Listen on Apple Podcasts (link: https://apple.co/3s1YH7h)
Listen on iHeart (link: https://ihr.fm/3MEY7FM)
Listen on Spotify (Link: https://spoti.fi/3yMmQCE)
Connect with the guest:
https://kyledeanhouston.com/meet-kyle/
https://www.instagram.com/kyledeanhouston/?hl=en
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCRmTiDH2OTvugws77kbWrRA
https://www.facebook.com/kyledeanhouston/?modal=admin_todo_tour
Resources:
Overcoming Addictions by Deepak Chopra
The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel van der Kolk
The Emotion Code: How to Release Your Trapped Emotions for Abundant Health, Love, and Happiness by Dr. Bradley Nelson
Connect with Mathew Blades:
Twitter - twitter.com/MathewBlades
Instagram - instagram.com/MathewBladesmedia/
Facebook - facebook.com/mathewbladesmedia/
* This podcast is not meant to serve as medical advice to treat any medical condition in either yourself or others, and is not a substitute for therapy.
www.learnfrompeoplewholivedit.com
Sunday Oct 30, 2022
Sunday Oct 30, 2022
LFWPLI: Eric Tivers, Understanding Adult ADHD and Learning the Skills Needed to Thrive
In this episode, Mathew and Eric discuss the challenges of a late ADHD diagnosis and talk through some of the tools Eric has developed to help him overcome those challenges. After being considered a lazy child and struggling through his first few semesters in college, the fog finally cleared when Eric discovered he had an “invisible disability”. As a licensed clinical social worker, coach, podcaster, speaker, and consultant Eric is teaching others that with the right medications and mindset they can be the successful people they are meant to be.
“In order to be successful with ADHD, you gotta be willing to bend the world to you.”
In this episode, you'll hear:
How ADHD impacts relationships
Misconceptions surrounding ADHD and why we need to let go of productivity as a measuring stick of our self-worth
The power of self-awareness, self-advocacy, and self-determination
Follow the podcast:
Listen on Apple Podcasts (link: https://apple.co/3s1YH7h)
Listen on iHeart (link: https://ihr.fm/3MEY7FM)
Listen on Spotify (Link: https://spoti.fi/3yMmQCE)
Connect with the guest:
https://www.adhdrewired.com/
https://spoti.fi/3FsGK9P
https://twitter.com/erictivers?lang=en
https://www.facebook.com/ADHDreWired/
https://www.instagram.com/adhdrewired/?hl=en
Connect with Mathew Blades:
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Facebook - facebook.com/mathewbladesmedia/
Website - learnfrompeoplewholivedit.com/