Learn From People Who Lived it

Relational programming and why it makes or breaks our ability to be intimate (week 2)

In week two its all about relational programming. Time to get clear on your triggers. WHY? 
You have to understand yourself, then work on things with others. It really doesn't work the other way around. So we will serve up tools like 
Check ins
Erotic recovery
Communication Skills
Quote:
“What was once adaptive is now maladaptive”
Plus Dr. Fedrick puts Mathew through and exercise on his "PEOPLE PLEASING."
Here is a link to the Instagram post we talked about
https://www.instagram.com/p/CtFG5rRvaqT/?igshid=MzRlODBiNWFlZA==
 
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Connect with the guest:
Dr. Elizabeth Fedrick on Instagram
DrElizabethFedrick.com
Resources: 
Evolve Counseling on Instagram
Relatable | Relationships Unfiltered Podcast
EvolveCounselingAZ.com 
Connect with Mathew Blades: 
Twitter - twitter.com/MathewBlades
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Five types of Intimacy with Mathew Blades and Dr. Elizabeth Fedrick (week 1)

What are the Five types of Intimacy? We plan to cover that and more today.
It's important to note that relationships require effort, and sometimes the spark or initial connection may fade over time. If you find yourself feeling consistently disconnected or lacking compatibility with your partner, it may be worth discussing these concerns with them openly and honestly.
In cases where you're struggling with intimacy, self-sabotage, or any relationship challenges, seeking therapy or professional help can be beneficial. That is exactly what we are doing the entire month of July. It's intimacy month on Learn from People who Lived it. Each week we'll be welcoming Dr. Elizabeth Fedrick to talk through the struggles we ALL have with intimacy. Connect with her below.
 
Connect with the guest:
Dr. Elizabeth Fedrick on Instagram
DrElizabethFedrick.com
Resources: 
Evolve Counseling on Instagram
Relatable | Relationships Unfiltered Podcast
EvolveCounselingAZ.com 
Running On Empty by Jonice Webb
Brené Brown – The Gifts of Imperfect Parenting
Connect with Mathew Blades: 
Twitter - twitter.com/MathewBlades
Instagram - instagram.com/MathewBladesmedia/ 
Facebook - facebook.com/mathewbladesmedia/ 
Website - learnfrompeoplewholivedit.com/
 

Breaking down Independence as it relates to YOUR life

In this episode, Sam Bradford and Mathew Blades connect for a conversation on Independence. It's more than fireworks, picnics and apple pie its about not relying on someone else for the way you feel. 
Quote:
"The hard part is that when I'm dependent on those things, when I get 'em I feel better than I am and when I don't I feel worse than I really am." Sam Bradford
 
To learn more about Bradford and Blades, please look at our flyer here. 
or email us here: Levelupleadership@proton.me
 
Also, if you or someone you know wants to be a guest on our podcast please visit us online here for a very straight forward system.
 
Happy Fourth of July friend.
 
 
 
 

Recovering from Your Childhood with Clay Jones

In this episode, you'll hear:
The long-term impacts of moving around a lot when you are a child
How to level up by moving through your fears and triggers
What helped Clay find forgiveness for his parents after their deaths?
Clay Jones is a father, social worker, and survivor who grew up as the youngest child in a dysfunctional, alcoholic, incestuous, and abusive family blended by marriage that frequently moved around the world. Mathew and Dr. Dave talk about the pros and cons of a transient childhood and how it impacted Clay in the long term. He tells us he felt like "the lost child" who didn't mourn leaving people and places he never felt connected to in the first place. Often left to his own devices, he says he became a "frozen boy" that grew into a "frozen man," not allowing himself to feel the good or the bad. He felt most safe with his older sister, but it wasn't until he was an adult that he learned his father had been sexually abusing her from ages 8 to 12. This caused her to be distant from the family and had a profoundly negative impact on Clay.
Domestic violence is often thought of as just involving male perpetrators and female survivors, but it's more complicated than that. Clay is now 20 years into his healing journey and is learning how to fully feel for the first time in a safe space. Even though the feeling of fear will never go away entirely, the ability to recognize it and move forward through it is its own sign of progress in recovery and reparenting. Clay has found ways to forgive both of his parents after their passing, and the trauma of his childhood now makes him a great social worker and loving father. The most important thing in his recovery has been taking a leap of faith, pushing past the shame, finding a community, connecting, and developing healthy relationships.
 Clay has written a memoir about his life called My Sister's Brother. A short version of his recovery story can be found here.
"Forgiveness is an inside job."
 In this episode, you'll hear:
The long-term impacts of moving around a lot when you are a child
How to level up by moving through your fears and triggers
What helped Clay find forgiveness for his parents after their deaths?
 
Follow the podcast: 
Listen on Apple Podcasts (link: https://apple.co/3s1YH7h) 
Listen on iHeart (link: https://ihr.fm/3MEY7FM) 
Listen on Spotify (Link: https://spoti.fi/3yMmQCE) 
 
Connect with the guest:
Dr. David Leicken, MD
 
Resources:
Adult Children of Alcoholics®& Dysfunctional Families
My Sister's Brother by Clay Jones
 
Connect with Mathew Blades: 
Twitter - twitter.com/MathewBlades
Instagram - instagram.com/MathewBladesmedia/ 
Facebook - facebook.com/mathewbladesmedia/ 
Website - learnfrompeoplewholivedit.com/
 
Guest Management Credits:
Sam Robertson