Learn From People Who Lived it
Navigating painful life circumstances would be easier if they came with a how-to guide. This podcast writes the book! Our show is all about transformation. Mathew Blades, a seasoned radio and television personality, uses his exceptional interview skills to guide individuals in sharing their challenging stories. With the support of our in-house psychologist and psychiatrist, we explore the patterns and strategies that enabled these individuals to transform their lives from a difficult phase to a thriving one.
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Monday Jul 31, 2023
Monday Jul 31, 2023
Today we wrap up our 4 week series on Intimacy with Dr. Fedrick and today we tackle five questions:
1. My wife and I have settled into a sex routine that is boring, and predictable. How can I present and what can I present to her to shake that up?
2. My husband was sexually abused as a teenage boy and struggles with intimacy as a result. What can I do to help him heal so we can have that optimal relationship?
3. My husband had a hard childhood, now he withdraws a lot. Avoids conversations and just stays busy. What is your advice to approach that conversation so I can support him?
4. My wife is a beautiful woman. I love her, she loves me but we do have a problem. After three kids, she has struggled with her weight. It’s developed into some body image issues and simply put she doesn’t feel pretty anymore and that has impacted our sex life. Is it possible for me to help her understand that I don’t care about the weight, I just want my confident wife back?
5. My husband and I are insanely busy. We have three kids under 6 and they are all in activities and we both work, simply put we don’t have time for intimacy, I’ve heard of people scheduling sex - does that work?
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Connect with the guest:
Dr. Elizabeth Fedrick on Instagram
DrElizabethFedrick.com
Resources:
Evolve Counseling on Instagram
Relatable | Relationships Unfiltered Podcast
EvolveCounselingAZ.com
Connect with Mathew Blades:
Twitter - twitter.com/MathewBlades
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Website - learnfrompeoplewholivedit.com/
Monday Jul 24, 2023
Monday Jul 24, 2023
Week Three - Barriers to Intimacy
Welcome back to week three and this week Mathew and Dr. Elizabeth Fedrick talk about:
How we lose intimacy
The most common struggles
Fears surrounding intimacy &
What if you are hardwired to not receive intimacy because of a trauma?
We'll also break down:
Emotional neglect
Anxious and Avoidance Dance
Non knowing how to express it
What to do if it was never modeled for you
Self-Esteem (how couples can help each other)
Lack of safety (how can I relay that message)
Toss around more compliments
Quote of the podcast, “Stop telling them to go right, tell them you love it when they go left”
Dr. Fedrick and Mathew also explain what they need to feel safe and do so with an exercise you can do yourself.
Follow the podcast:
Listen on Apple Podcasts (link: https://apple.co/3s1YH7h)
Listen on iHeart (link: https://ihr.fm/3MEY7FM)
Listen on Spotify (Link: https://spoti.fi/3yMmQCE)
Connect with the guest:
Dr. Elizabeth Fedrick on Instagram
DrElizabethFedrick.com
Resources:
Evolve Counseling on Instagram
Relatable | Relationships Unfiltered Podcast
EvolveCounselingAZ.com
Running On Empty by Jonice Webb
Brené Brown – The Gifts of Imperfect Parenting
Connect with Mathew Blades:
Twitter - twitter.com/MathewBlades
Instagram - instagram.com/MathewBladesmedia/
Facebook - facebook.com/mathewbladesmedia/
Website - learnfrompeoplewholivedit.com/
Monday Jul 17, 2023
Monday Jul 17, 2023
In week two its all about relational programming. Time to get clear on your triggers. WHY?
You have to understand yourself, then work on things with others. It really doesn't work the other way around. So we will serve up tools like
Check ins
Erotic recovery
Communication Skills
Quote:
“What was once adaptive is now maladaptive”
Plus Dr. Fedrick puts Mathew through and exercise on his "PEOPLE PLEASING."
Here is a link to the Instagram post we talked about
https://www.instagram.com/p/CtFG5rRvaqT/?igshid=MzRlODBiNWFlZA==
Follow the podcast:
Listen on Apple Podcasts (link: https://apple.co/3s1YH7h)
Listen on iHeart (link: https://ihr.fm/3MEY7FM)
Listen on Spotify (Link: https://spoti.fi/3yMmQCE)
Connect with the guest:
Dr. Elizabeth Fedrick on Instagram
DrElizabethFedrick.com
Resources:
Evolve Counseling on Instagram
Relatable | Relationships Unfiltered Podcast
EvolveCounselingAZ.com
Connect with Mathew Blades:
Twitter - twitter.com/MathewBlades
Instagram - instagram.com/MathewBladesmedia/
Facebook - facebook.com/mathewbladesmedia/
Website - learnfrompeoplewholivedit.com/
Monday Jul 10, 2023
Monday Jul 10, 2023
What are the Five types of Intimacy? We plan to cover that and more today.
It's important to note that relationships require effort, and sometimes the spark or initial connection may fade over time. If you find yourself feeling consistently disconnected or lacking compatibility with your partner, it may be worth discussing these concerns with them openly and honestly.
In cases where you're struggling with intimacy, self-sabotage, or any relationship challenges, seeking therapy or professional help can be beneficial. That is exactly what we are doing the entire month of July. It's intimacy month on Learn from People who Lived it. Each week we'll be welcoming Dr. Elizabeth Fedrick to talk through the struggles we ALL have with intimacy. Connect with her below.
Connect with the guest:
Dr. Elizabeth Fedrick on Instagram
DrElizabethFedrick.com
Resources:
Evolve Counseling on Instagram
Relatable | Relationships Unfiltered Podcast
EvolveCounselingAZ.com
Running On Empty by Jonice Webb
Brené Brown – The Gifts of Imperfect Parenting
Connect with Mathew Blades:
Twitter - twitter.com/MathewBlades
Instagram - instagram.com/MathewBladesmedia/
Facebook - facebook.com/mathewbladesmedia/
Website - learnfrompeoplewholivedit.com/